Etsy Hacker Grants Support Female Programmers 211
samazon writes "Online retail shop Etsy announced a living-expenses grant program for women interested in attending the free Hacker School 3-month programming course. The program is hosted in various New York locations (NYU and Spotify have both hosted sessions) and not only is Etsy offering $5,000 grants to ten women who are accepted into the program, they're also hosting the summer course, and have offered enough space to double the class size to 40 students."
So... (Score:4, Funny)
Can they teach my girlfriend how to play Starcraft?
It's gender discrimination ! (Score:5, Insightful)
Why only the women are getting the benefits?
What about the men?
Etsy doesn't care about their male customer any longer, does it?
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They're obviously misandrists. If it was a men-only scholarship the feminists would be burning the place down.
Do these yokels realize that the world's first high level language was written my a woman named Grace Hopper, and the world's first programmer was a woman named Ada Lovelace?
This is just wrong. It should be illegal.
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Instead, we should be offering the following question to others. If people should be judged by the content of their character rather than their gender/race/sexual-orientation/etc, how does having special months set aside for groups of people, and special scholarships set aside for groups of people, and other
Re:It's gender discrimination ! (Score:5, Insightful)
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No?
Women live longer than men.
Women get more spent on their healthcare than men (UK NHS).
Women get custody of kids ahead of men.
Women get paid more for part-time work than men.
Women get more time off work than men (maternity vs paternity).
Women get legalised sex discrimination in their favour (UK).
Women get nicer clothes than men.
Women get their own government minister and men don't (UK).
Women under 25 get paid more than men under 25 (US).
Women get support for domestic abuse despite men under 25 being more
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Ok, I can't be arsed trying to google for the individual news reports, studies and Government publications that back this up, but:
Age at death : check any 'life expectancy' study in the past century in the UK or the US.
Healthcare : women get screening at an earlier age than men, and more often. they're more likely to go to the doctor (for various reasons) which means they get more time/effort/expenditure as a result. They get a ton of maternity support which usually men don't need.
Custody : check court stat
Re:It's gender discrimination ! (Score:5, Insightful)
Please explain to me the "male privilege", especially as related to education.
I remember my senior year of high school. Out of the the hundreds of college scholarships that were offered, only 10% of them were applicable to white males. We don't all come from families that owned land and people, mind you.
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You mean like the stereotype that all whites are rich and privileged?
Re:It's gender discrimination ! (Score:4, Insightful)
Funny how there are always two side to "Feminism".
One side says "Feminism isn't some extremist theory about patriarchy and male privilege: it's just the desire for equality, who could be opposed to that"?
But when you point out that some things go beyond formal equality, the other side says "Of course formal equality is not the point, since we have to deal with thousands of years of patriarchy and male privilege".
People make fun of the far left, but dig deep enough and they are the ones dictating most of our political discourse.
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A trip to the girl's toys section of walmart should be proof enough of that.
Yes, can we *please* make girl's toys (and clothes) in something other than hot pink?
I have a daughter, and I tried to keep the pink away from her. Oh, how I tried. But once you get out of pure unisex baby clothes, the girls section is *nothing but freaking pink*!
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Re:It's gender discrimination ! (Score:4, Insightful)
On the other hand, apparently the men-women ratio in nursing is 1:19 [www.cmaj.ca] (yes, one guy for every 19 women). But I suspect if some organization started offering men-only scholarships for nursing there'd be riots.
I suppose it's just a shame that we have to bribe women to go against the trend, rather than just changing society. (I have a five year old daughter, and I will make damned sure she gets a chance to try a little bit of everything, gender-bias be damned.)
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Seriously, did you even think about Googling that before you wrote it? There are pages of scholarships for men in nursing school [google.com], and for exactly the same reason. This is a Good Thing.
* puts on sundress and matching shoes * (Score:1)
Hey I've been out of work for 6 months and I'm not above going tranny
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IT isn't about Technical Skills. Techies are a dime a dozen. You need to learn how to work with a team, and show that to your interviewer.
Sexism (Score:4, Insightful)
Who cares what sex the code comes from? I want the best possible, not because it's from a woman.
But such is the way of "progressives"
Re:Sexism (Score:4, Insightful)
Having women in science/tech/engineering/math (STEM) programs is good for the women and their long-term job prospects and incomes, which currently suffer relative to men due partially to lower levels of interest and education in STEM fields. Believe it or not, not everything is about what's best for YOU.
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Re:Sexism (Score:5, Insightful)
So if it's good for them, why are they not flocking to those fields? Why is it you who gets to decide what's best for women (the tradeoff of higher salary, for working in a field you don't enjoy) instead of them making that decision for themselves? Or are you saying there's some sort of problem women have where they can't make rational choices, and need to be enticed towards them instead?
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Or are you saying there's some sort of problem women have where they can't make rational choices, and need to be enticed towards them instead?
Just because a *market is free does not mean it is rational or optimal.
So yes, sometimes people need to be enticed towards rational choices.
*In this case, the market for programming jobs
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And just because a job is rational and optimal for the market as a whole, doesn't mean it's enjoyable or desirable for the individual.
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In which case, the root cause is not that they're not getting paid enough (which is what this sort of funding seems to address) but that our education system is not functioning correctly. That is what needs to be addressed - the root cause. Not pottering around throwing money at the end product. Also, the notion of some activities not being "feminine" or "masculine" needs to die, hard.
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If you think that tech is a meritocracy, you're not paying attention.
Well, no. Nobody who's every worked in a company with an HR department would claim that.
If you think everyone has the same opportunities, and the same encouragement you do, you're not paying attention.
What encouragement? I, like a decent chunk of people here on slashdot did, learnt programming before it was cool, by ourselves, with little outside support apart from books, and before the internet made language tutorials so accessible.
If you think that there isn't discrimination against women, you're not paying attention.
In the 10 years I've been in the industry, I've only seen one woman apply for a programming job. She got it, and worked fine in and with the rest of the team, until her husband got sick an
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Oh get over yourself FFS. (Score:2)
"Having been the only woman in a CS class, I can assure you that it's not fun"
Oh please. There were some girls on my course and they had a great time.
"It doesn't help that many women do not feel safe in the computer lab at night."
What sort of lab is this? Do they make crack alongside the computers? Or have you just been smoking some?
"f you think that tech is a meritocracy, you're not paying attention. If you think everyone has the same opportunities, and the same encouragement you do, you're not paying atte
Re:Sexism (Score:4, Interesting)
Everyone deserves equal access. A person should not apply for this grant and be denied because of the way they were born. It's revolting and I'm glad to see other people have the same opinion.
They will deny people access to this grant because of their sex. That is discrimination. Someone who meets every criterion they lay out for eligibility will be treated as unworthy because they haven't got the grantor's favorite chromosomes.
Re:Sexism (Score:5, Insightful)
A person should not apply for this grant and be denied because of the way they were born. It's revolting and I'm glad to see other people have the same opinion.
You are an idiot.
There are thousands of grants that are amazingly specific in their requirements.
Some are based on country of origin or last name, others are for redheads, left handers, skateboarders, tall people,
short people, club affiliation, weight, religious affiliation, skin color, academic achievement, and so on.
They will deny people access to this grant because of their sex. That is discrimination.
Breaking News: Private citizens can choose who they want to give money to.
Ric Romero with more at 11.
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I dont GP was arguing about legality of the grant. Just that it is discriminatory and sexist. Learn to read before calling others idiots.
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They are offering the grant to encourage and promote the participation of women in the field. It's not like they decided, "let's give this money to folks who want to do CS" and then later "...but just women". As you all know, historically the number of women in CS has been very low. You can argue about why this is all you like. If you think the field doesn't suffer by not tapping into such a large demographic of human potential, you're kidding yourself. Medicine and Law shared the same kind of low numbers d
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Lots of people care what gender the code comes from. Not consciously, not overtly, but they care. We're not in an ideal world where no one cares about these things. It's a bias, and it's slowly getting better, but it's not without effort.
You want the best possible code. I want the best possible code. Great.
Except society has trained most people to believe that the best code is written by men. And by the sheer number of men in the field, it sure seems like the best code is written by men. It's a bad feedback
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What the fuck are you on?
If I go to github or sourceforge or kernel.org and download some source code, I have no idea who wrote it. I don't know whether they're male, female or some wondrous Thai intermediate state.
I don't care either.
More to the point, if I need to recruit a developer, I'm going to explore their programming ability, look for signs of interest in programming and also make sure that they'll fit with my company culture and our ways of working. I want technical skills, personal interest, stron
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You comment would be more compelling if women were not underrepresented in the field due to sexism. But they are. It's not accidental that the first computer programmers were women -- it's hard work, and why should men do that? -- until business realized how powerful this stuff was, and poof, out go the women. See ya, Ada, we got it from here.
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You comment would be more compelling if women were not underrepresented in the field [...]
So far, so good.
[...] due to sexism. But they are.
Citation needed. How do we know that it is because of sexism?
[...]it's hard work, and why should men do that?
Yes, because men did not work hard in the mid 1800's. We all learned that from the unbiased history book "How men has always oppressed womyn". No man has ever worked.
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and/or it could also be a marketing/pr move for a web site that predominantly markets to women in the first place.
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Your chances of getting good code improve when there's more talent to draw from.
See "Unlocking the Clubhouse" for information about how many obstacles are still in the way of women in technical education.
We're losing bright high-achieving types.
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Re:Sexism (Score:5, Insightful)
I suggest you put you knee back in its jerk, and consider for a moment how you would feel
if they were to offer a grant that was only available to men..
Reverse discrimination is no better than discrimination.
Make sense now?
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I agree with you in essence, however, "reverse discrimination" is simply a useful term to give more information about the type of discrimination that is happening. It is all discrimination, as you say.
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Dude, giving a tiny grant to a group traditionally underrepresented in a field is not discrimination, neither reverse, forward or sideways. I think you and I will survive the terrible persecution of having to suffer a few women being able to attend a programming class.
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What? They are offering a grant to only one gender. Discrimination based on ANY gender (or race) should be quickly shamed for what it is -- favoritism based on arbitrary physical qualities of the person. You're basically arguing that this is reparation for a systemic advantage by males. That only serves to *enforce* a gender divide. Fix the educational system
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Cite?
A hypothetical problem which may or may not exist.
It needs "fixing" why?
And considering your venue, the argument had better be fucking sound.. as in QED knockout punch sound, not I'm an emo-bitch social justice wannabe sound.
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It needs "fixing" why?
Because of the thousands of potentially great programmers that are not working in the field? It's like the good male programmers would be displaced if the female-to-male ratio was even, it would (hopefully) be the bad ones, if any.
On a different topic, I see you are currently at "+3, Troll": very, very close to attaining the coveted holy grail of slashdothood, the "+5 Troll". Well done.
Re:Sexism (Score:5, Insightful)
If 49% of the population is men, and men have an equal rate to become nurses as women, 49% of nurses should be men.
But we all know they're not.
Re:Sexism (Score:5, Insightful)
So what is the cause of the lower-than-expected rate of female programmers, and what can we do to fix it?
Needs "fixing" why? I see no evidence that women who want to become programmers are denied the opportunity.
Why is it that nobody gives a shit about the lack of male teachers?
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You don't understand. Every good thing that happens disproportionately to men is evidence that we live in a sexist patriarchal society. Any scientific evidence that men are better at something than women due to innate differences is evidence that even scientists are corrupted by sexism.
Every bad thing that happens to disproportionately men (or good thing that happens to disproportionately women) is evidence of men's stupidity, women's greater ability, or men perversely preferring this state of affairs. A
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Why is it that nobody gives a shit about the lack of male teachers?
There are plenty of people who do [google.com]. You just don't see it on /. because it's not really news for nerds. Seriously, does nobody do a simple search before the spout off these ridiculous examples?
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You're not "progressive." Your "progress" is discriminatory and painfully ignorant. Again, no one answered my original question about the quality of the code.
Way to be ignorant liberals. Again, I don't care who wrote it so long as it's the best.
I'm sure you liberal idiots would be marching with pitchforks if some company did a male only programmers retreat. I'm sure you also defended Augusta for their male only policy right?
Inb4 conservative
Re:Sexism (Score:4, Insightful)
PEOPLE are lazy. Half of our population is taught from birth that they CAN get a job and work if they want a good life. The other half is taught from birth that they MUST get a job and work if they want a good life. Denial that the extreme correlation between being taught that they CAN/MUST have a job and whether people actually do have a well paying job flies directly in the face of all evidence.
Times are changing. All the way into my thirties, a woman who stayed home was a 'housewife' (or 'homemaker'). A man that stayed home was a 'bum'. Today, we see a little more acceptance of men who stay home while their wife works, but not nearly the acceptance that we see of women in virtually any traditionally male job.
Women are killing men (Score:2)
It is a fact that men have a lower average lifespan then women. Since it would be foolish to assume that men want do die younger it must therefor be women who are the cause of this. That is your logic. The races and genders are not equal. Only foolish bleeding hearts believe this, there are differences in alcohol tolerance, weight gain from sugar intake, heart disease risks and countless other diseases which affect one race more then the other.
To therefor blindly assume that all races and genders are equall
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51% of elementary school teachers and nurses should be men.
But we all know they're not.
Re:Sexism (Score:4, Insightful)
If you think that it's not because of any such man-made roadblocks, then you must be saying that women/blacks/hispanics aren't smart enough to be programmers (which makes YOU the sexist or racist) or that they don't want to be programmers (which is wrong, just ask them).
Different groups have different interests and aptitudes. You may consider people equal but they are not identical.
I'm short, fat, white, and have no interest in sports. I didn't get a chance to play major league basketball and it's just not fair. I should be given a grant to help develop the basketball talent the world has cruelly withheld from me.
Re:Sexism (Score:4, Insightful)
Women used to make up %40 of CS students in the 1980s (Camp 2001 [cmu.edu]) and make up on average a little over %35 of Israeli undergrads in CS ( Vilner 2006 [uleth.ca]) and vary all over the globe [techrepublic.com]. This indicates that the current US rate of about %20 is due to culture because if there was something biological going on, then the rates around the world should be roughly the same.
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Well, how are programmers treated in the workplace In the culture at large? Do they have lots of respect, time off, money compared to other occupations with similar difficulty and requirements? Is the profession relatively secure against its jobs being shipped abroad or filled with H1Bs?
No, the culture in the US treats programmers like interchangeable nerds that can be replaced with foreigners making near minimum wage, who can be worked 80 hours per week until they become unemployable at 45. Yet few profess
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Why do you feel you need to?
Why would you apply gender discrimination instead of removing the barriers that prevent equal participation?
If the $5k were going to people that would otherwise be too poor to attend, that would be understandable. It's not. It's going to women because.. they're not men.
Fuck that sexist bullshit.
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Asshole
Well at least you admit it by signing your posts that way.
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Well at least you admit it by signing your posts that way.
Damn, that was the best chuckle I have gotten on /. in quite some time. Good one, Mr. Coward!
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No, I'm fucked off that people are discriminating on gender grounds. Stop it.
Whatever the field, whatever the reason, whoever the hell is providing the money: Stop it.
Shit, if I apply for one of the dozen software engineer jobs they're currently recruiting for, will I be refused because I'm not a girl? Why is 80% of their board male? Just what the fuck is going on at that company?
I hate discrimination. Age, gender, race.. stop it.
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What privilege? Being able to take CS class or degree is a privilege awarded only to men, and somehow women are deprived of that privilege? Tell me that was a bad joke.
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The OP wasn't arguing about "fair"; he was arguing about "effective". Why is a female programmer more desirable than a male programmer (given both are equally skilled)?
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Who knows? Who cares? Same reason as female teachers vastly outnumber males. As long as there's no discrimination going on, and the numerical discrepancy is the result of the choice of individuals, why are we bothering?
Don't men sell things on Etsy? (Score:1, Insightful)
100 years ago, in New York, there were signs on Italian businesses which read, "Micks need not apply." ("Mick" is a slur against the Irish, for those of you who are not well read.)
50 years ago, angry white people held up signs exhorting black people to stay out of their neighborhoods.
Now that racism is almost completely socially unacceptable (except against Asians, who for some reason are still unjustly and openly targeted,) people who like to blame their failure to relate on those with whom they cannot rel
2nd Etsy Slashvertisement today (Score:1)
Nice Slashdot. Way to be, you know, journalistic.
sooo, i see you like to write code too... (Score:1, Insightful)
Nice to see some sponsorship of women... (Score:2, Interesting)
Because, for a "meritocracy", there's a whole lots of sexist bullshit going on in tech, and I'm not just talking about management.
Part of the reason that women aren't more prevalent in tech, is that as soon as it becomes known that a female is present in a discussion (on-line, or in-person), the tone of the discussion changes radically. Women have a much harder time getting people to accept their ideas, even controlling for level of experience. And, you can't tell me inexperienced females come up with stu
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I hear stuff (both in the discussion and afterwards) about such-and-such being "weak" or "avoiding talking" or similar.
It's called being an introvert. It's not gender specific.
I'll commonly see that the topic switches from "which idea is best", to "make sure that girl's idea doesn't win"
I can happily admit that I've never seen this. Ever.
The primary problem here is not just a small minority of males being the jerk, but that the majority of males present give them a pass on it, and don't call them on their crap. That's just aiding and abetting the problem.
What the fuck makes you think that other men like this? If a woman in that situation can't speak out in her own defence, how the fuck is a man meant to? Who's going to speak out to defend the man getting similarly jerked on?
Pay attention when women are trying to comment, and tell the assholes to shut their mouths when they start in with the sexist comments.
I hear more sexist comments from female managers than I do from almost every man I work with. The one male exemption is the guy that can walk into a lift, wink at one girl, grab t
This is great (Score:5, Insightful)
If we accept the premise that gender is in no way related to programming abilities, the current gender distribution in the field means that we're missing out on a lot of great talents. So why is that, and what can we do about it? Sticking our heads into the sand and pretending that there is no problem sure as hell hasn't worked so far. I think we need to realize that there is a feedback loop going here. Getting more women into programming helps in creating role models and a less hostile environment.
Re:This is great (Score:4, Insightful)
Because Computer Science requires math, and "math is hard" or so young girls are taught (and pressured implicitly to believe by many of their peers).
Programming is a field that developed in the aftermath of World War 2. During the war, so many men were off toting rifles and such that women were, by necessity, introduced into the workforce in large numbers. This includes both the "human computers" who performed (without electronic assistance) the calculations that are today done electronically, and the "programmers" (to use the modern term) who were responsible for much of the operation of early electronic computers.
That was in the 40s, though. Feminism in general gained steam throughout the next few decades, driven in part by the wartime revelation that women were perfectly capable of both keeping the economy productive. Women asserted that they could run things, make money, wield power, and so forth - and they were, and are, right.
Here's the catch, though: while many women will self-identify as "feminists" (at least if asked; the term has unfortunately picked up some negative connotations of "female > male" sexism), they still don't want to give and receive the same treatment as guys. For example, you're still not going to meet many women who will buy a guy in a bar a drink, uninvited, just because she thinks he's attractive (girls are taught by their friends how to *get* free drinks). You're also not going to find many who are willing to put up with the social consequences of caring more about finishing an AP Computer Science assignment than going shopping for another pair of shoes with their friends.
At least, that's how it is in the US. Yes, women are taught that they can do whatever they want, and be whatever they want... but they're also taught that what they *should* want is popularity, and that it's more popular to be bad at STEM than good at it! India and China seem to have much less of a problem with this, but I'm only viewing that from a distance so I may be mistaken.
I Personally Like Seeing Women At Work (Score:5, Insightful)
1) Environments with a good mix of men and women are more productive
2) 20% of all long term relationships start at work. I am all for improving my odds and so should you be. Its not sexist or objectifying to actually want to interact with the opposite sex daily.
This is acceptable to me because, its not necessarily "affirmative action", but rather it is attempting to attract another demographic. Lets be clear here, this program is:
a) Free.
b) Not terribly competitive.
Romance at work (Score:3)
Starting a romance at work is a very bad idea. Both for you, your spouse, your boss and colleagues.
Also, in my experience, environments with a good mix of men and women are less productive, exactly because of flirting, hidden jealousy and dick measuring.
Whoosh for the lot of ya! (Score:2)
This is one of those attempts to encourage young women to become more involved in areas that they have tended to avoid.
I've been involved in some of these attempts to foster more women into technical fields before I retired. The overlying issue is that there are many more women in the workplace than years past, and many of them are professionals. But they appear to be shunning many of the technical fields. Other fields
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Although I sense some sarcasm in your post, that makes more logical sense than any other reason I've heard so far to only award it to people with a certain set of organs.
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It's actually rather annoying.......in the Trayvon/Zimmerman stories, tons of comments get modded up for complaining about the latent racism in America. Then in a story about Indian programmers, you see actual cases getting modded up complaining about the Indians.
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Antagonism towards Indian programmers (racism) is a different issue, with different dynamics.
I don't deny that it exists, and I don't deny that it is important.
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men feel that they have a right, and perhaps even a duty, to own the outer world.
I'm not sure this is a real thing.
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Excellent post.
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Ask questions and help me draw it out. It's hard to explain ideas that are not common, and I could use some help.
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Oh, Dr. Phil is saying this? You're just pushing. That's all. Zero content.
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You need to learn the difference between "how things should be" and "how things actually are". Education will help.
Re:Humiliation, Sexual Intimacy, the Gender War (Score:4, Insightful)
I'm not sure what you mean, but I will try to unpack some of the ideas.
"The Inside of the Home" and "The Outside of the Home." I am talking about the contemporary society, but also more broadly. Inside of the home is the space literally within the walls of a house or an apartment. Women tend to be the decorators, and in charge of the children, and in charge of care activities. I am not saying that this has to be the case; I am saying that that is how it tends to be in the majority of the cases in our society. Cooking, cleaning, household chores, childrearing, arranging doctor visits, and on and on. Also, interior decoration, arrangement, placements of objects, coordination of guests, and on and on. Even in dual income families, this is generally the pattern.
"Outside the home" refers to the political arena, the realm of work (in an office, in a quarry, at a factory, etc., etc.,.) Again, I am not saying that this is the required way things need to be. I am saying that this is how it tends to be.
The current fad of "man caves" -- or, homes within the home for men -- is a demonstration of this "Inside/Outside" division.
The "intimate violence" that men experience is the control that women hold over intimate relationships, by the withholding power of the "No." Men ask, women reject. The horrors of this were detailed by a woman named Norah Vincent who is a woman who lived as a man for a full year. She detailed exactly what it felt like to be approaching women as a man, and noted for the first time what it is like to be rejected as a man. Women frequently say, "I have been rejected, I know what it's like to be rejected; Man has nothing on me," -- but Norah Vincent actually knows that there is a difference between night and day between the two.
Women individually and collectively have the power to exclude and shame a man for his sexual advances, which he and he alone is required to make. How many tears have been shed by men because of the way that the sexual relationship plays out? This does not receive enough attention.
I am not saying that women are bad, any more than noble-minded feminists are saying that men are bed. I am saying that there is something needing analysis here, if we are going to truly understand what is going on in the relationships between men and women in -- and this is one offshoot -- in the programming battle as well.
Men know that they are at the mercy of women in the intimate sphere -- and they know where their powers are. Men know that their powers are in the programming sphere, in the trades sphere, in the political sphere, and on and on. Men do not want to disarm because women do not want to disarm.
I have already been called a misogynist, -- just for pointing out the game. The battle is alive and well.
Let's see; ... What else might be unclear, that *perhaps* I can give explain:
I said that "Women being the masters of the inside of the home places women as the masters of the inside of the heart." Here I am treating the home metaphorically -- but the message is very visceral and real. Men who love women but can never "make it work," or feel that they have to go through layers of game or interpretation or just giving up (humiliation) in order to "make it work" should be able to intuit what is going on, though. Men and women (heterosexual) have each other in a death-grip around the heart. We love one another, clearly, but we are in a war, we are in a battle. We need each other, and that need has become war.
Women can say "No," and hold themselves in reserve. Men can push her out or dominate her -- if not physically, then politically, economically, or "any means necessary," whether consciously or unconsciously. Of course, women can play the dominance game as well. But we all feel it. We know what is happening. We know when we are being pushed, and we know when we are pushing. At some level, we know.
My appeal is to people who dream for equality, true equality, and love, between
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Misogyny? How so? I'm all in favor of women programming. I love women. I love programming. I want to share it with women. I believe in equality of the sexes. I support the grants.
There is no misogyny here; But I think I've touched a nerve...
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You are correct. Every relationship is different, and every individual is different. But there are some generalities that can be made. For example, we are talking about men and women in programming. A great many of the men here are "pushing back," arguing for the purpose of keeping their territory.
Are ALL the men doing that? No, of course not. But there are forces at work here, there are real lives being lived here.
Intimacy is a mixed word, too. It can mean a lot of things. Here I am focusing on sex
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Yes. As a female engineer, I absolutely despise applying looser standards to women because it helps perpetuate the stereotype that women are less qualified than men. On the other hand, programs that encourage women to become better at technical fields can help break the stereotype. I can go toe to toe with most men in my field just fine, and I'm even perfectly content to be the only woman in a room with 20 or more men, but it wears me down every time someone I'm meeting with makes the assumption that a m
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Good: Scholarship programs, outreach, mentorship.
I concur. Where can I get some of this? Just that, these all seem to be closed off to me on the grounds I'm white, male, atheist..